Lying can be difficult and complicated, especially if you don’t lie often. Those who start lying should know some basic qualities of a good lie, such as there should be simplicity in the lie, and while telling a lie, one should ensure that the lie seems believable. It may help if you plan your lie ahead of time, then take some time to write it down and practice it until it sounds reasonable. Perhaps the most important part of a lie is telling it convincingly. You’ll want to avoid everyday things that give away lies, like fidgeting, changing your tone of voice, and not making eye contact.
Method 1 :- establish effective lies
1 Maintain simplicity in your lie: Keep enough details in it that your lie seems legitimate, but not so much that it becomes complicated. Elaborate lying means putting in more details and then you have to keep track of them, and often it also means you have to explain more. A simple lie is much easier to maintain.
- For example, an elaborate lie might be, “I was late because there was a traffic jam on I-70 and I had to back up to the entrance ramp and take country roads instead.” A simpler version of this lie could be, “There was a traffic jam on I-70.”
- The simplicity of the lie means you don’t have to include any additional details in it.
2 Avoid involving other people in the lie: Involving someone else as a witness or alibi makes the lie more complicated than it needs to be. If the person to whom you lied checks your excuse, he will catch your lie.
- If you will be using someone else in your lie, make sure you tell them in advance. Some people may not appreciate being a part of your lies.
- If you’re planning your lie ahead of time, instead of using the person’s name in the lie and telling them, at least talk to the person before you lie and ask if they’re willing to cover for you. Ready for.
3 Make your lies credible: When you lie, include only information that is credible. Do not exaggerate the matter so much that the listener starts questioning your words. Make your lie as real as possible.
- Be critical about your lies and make sure they are reasonable. Don’t just rely on your own judgment, but also think about the person you’re lying to, and whether he thinks it’s reasonable.
- For example, telling your wife that a bird flew into the house and broke her lamp is not a credible lie. Telling him that you bumped into your dog and rolled over him and knocked the lamp over is more believable.
4 Include some truth in your lie: Lies that are completely false are easy to spot, but they become more believable if you sprinkle a little truth in them. Find a way to convincingly explain your lie so that you can provide evidence to show that it is true.
- It is easier to show real emotions by telling the truth than by lying. If you emphasize the truth, you can hide your feelings.
- For example, if you’re out late at night with a group of friends, and your ex-girlfriend Holly is also in that group. Tell your current girlfriend, “I was hanging out with Carl, Steve, and Stacey.” It’s true that you were with these people, but you’re lying about Holly being there too
5 Tell a lie before you have to: By starting a discussion about the topic about which you need to lie, you can avoid lying under pressure. Before you are asked anything, tell a lie to yourself. The listener probably won’t think you’re lying, because you volunteered the information.
- If the person you’re lying to is already upset or suspicious, they’re more likely to be critical of the lie you told. If he hasn’t thought about the situation yet, he’s more likely to accept what you’re saying without asking any further questions.
- , If you go see your friend’s band, and they’re terrible, go up to them after the set and, before they even have to ask, say, “You guys were great!”
Method 2 :- remember the lie
1 Write down the details of the lie: The hardest thing about lying is remembering what you said. What’s even more difficult is if you have to repeat the same lie to multiple people over a short period of time. The best way to avoid this is to write down the lie.
- If you have time to plan a lie, write it down first. If you lie spontaneously, write down who you lied to and what you said.
- If the lie is time-sensitive, and will no longer be needed after some time, then there will be no need to keep the paper where you wrote it for long. If the consequences of lying will be long-term, you may want to keep the paper in a safe place.
- Writing helps you clear things and remember them. Even if you throw the paper away immediately, writing it down can help you establish the lie in your mind.
2 Practice saying the lie out loud: It’s often easier to remember something if it’s true, but if you’re lying, you may forget what exactly you wanted to say. Repeating a lie helps you tell it more effectively.
- If you’re lying on the spot, you won’t get a chance to practice your lie. You can repeat what you said later so you remember exactly how you lied.
- , If you have time to tell the lie beforehand, you can try saying it in different ways to see what would be the best delivery for the lie.
3 Record yourself telling a lie: You don’t need a video camera to record small lies, but if you’re preparing for a bigger lie, video can help. Watch the video for yourself to decide whether your lie is convincing or not. If it doesn’t feel right, then find a way to adjust it.
- This is like lying to yourself while looking in the mirror, but actually lying while looking in the mirror is more distracting. Taking your video and watching it will help you know whether your delivery was convincing or not.
- If your delivery is convincing, watch the video several times to memorize the words and presentation of the lie.
Method 3 :- controlling your body while lying
1 Keep your hands away from your face: Liars fidget with their hands a lot. If you are standing then keep your hands at your sides and if you are sitting then keep them in your lap. Don’t scratch your chin or your nose.
2 Stay still: Rocking back and forth, tapping your feet, or generally moving a lot are signs that you are lying. And don’t shrug your shoulders too often. By keeping your entire body relaxed and avoiding movement, you give your appearance a poise that will help people avoid suspicion.
3 Keep your arms open, not folded: Folding your arms is considered a closed posture, and don’t cross your arms when you lie down. Place them at your sides, or with your hands in your lap if you’re sitting.
4 Control your blinking: Liars have a nervous blinking habit, and this is a sign that people easily pick up on. Apart from this, also understand that keeping your eyes open for too long can make people suspicious, so deliberately try to keep blinking as normally as possible.
5 Use eye contact to your advantage: One of the surest signs that someone is lying is when they look away from the listener. You can control your eye contact to hide your lies. Maintain adequate eye contact so that the other person can trust you.
- You have to strike a balance between too little and too much eye contact. If you keep staring at the person without looking away, you’ll appear just as suspicious as if you never make eye contact.
6 Keep your body turned toward the person you’re lying to. Turning your body to one side or the other is considered a sign that you’re hiding something. Make sure that your body remains turned towards them. Keep your eyes towards them too, and don’t keep looking far away into space.
7 Use body touch to build intimacy: When you’re lying, touch the person you’re lying to appropriately. Place your hands on their shoulders, hold their hand, or if you’re sitting next to them, gently touch their feet. By touching them you will soften them towards you and make them more trusting.
- Yes, you have to decide whether or not you are in a close enough relationship with the person that you can start touching them. In many circumstances, this will not be the case.
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Method 4 :- control your speech
1 Keep your voice normal: Another unconscious change that occurs is that the pitch of your voice becomes higher when you lie. Try to moderate the pitch of your voice so that it remains at your normal level. Make sure your voice remains appropriate for the situation.
- The fact that the pitch of your voice becomes higher when you lie is well known, so people will pay attention if they suspect you are lying.
- To balance out the habit of being high, you can keep it lower than it usually is if you want.
- Apart from this, also pay attention to your tone and volume so that it remains appropriate according to the situation. Don’t speak in a very cheerful tone when you need to show regret, nor speak in a serious tone when your lie needs to sound encouraging.
2 Give straightforward answers: When you are asked a question, give a complete answer, but do not let yourself get lost in the jungle of words. Don’t pause or ramble on, including filler words. Rambling on or going off-topic is a clear sign that you are lying.
- Although this will take practice, you will want to balance your answers so that they are neither too long nor too short. There can be suspicion from both.
3 Use casual language: A natural habit when lying is to become too formal. People will notice the difference in your distinctive demeanor. Use contractions like “didn’t” and “wasn’t” instead of “did not” and “wasn’t.” Don’t hesitate to use slang or colloquial terms as they seem normal in conversation.
- For example, instead of “I am not entirely sure,” say “I don’t know.”
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Method 5 :- Answering follow-up questions
1 Stick to your guns: After you’ve lied, you may be asked to retell the story, or you may be asked for a full explanation. Don’t go back on your word and don’t go back on your lies. Stick to that, and try to repeat it as closely as possible to what was said last time. Asking the same questions over and over again is one way to detect lies.
2 Add small extra details: When you’re asked for more information, don’t add too much to the lie that might complicate it. Try your best to include some small details so that the lie grows a little but doesn’t make it too difficult to maintain.
3 Answer the question with a question: Sometimes you can disorient and distract people by asking another question in response to a question. You may reply, “Why don’t you believe me?” or “Did you hear about this story from someone else? “Because of this, the asker finds it difficult to receive a response.
4 If you’re absolutely going to be caught, say that you don’t remember lying: this will make the other person think that your lie was just their imagination. Be careful though – this method usually doesn’t work that well, and when it doesn’t work, you can get caught.
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Method 6 :- Angetting caught in a lie
1 Admit that you lied and apologize: Chances are, you’ll be caught in a lie at some point, and of course, you won’t be able to get out of it. It is possible that someone may find a video that proves that you lied, or it is possible that some kind of documents may be found that prove that you were lying. At that point, instead of spreading the lie and making the situation worse for yourself, own up to what you did and face the consequences.
- Usually, accepting the lie instead of continuing it will restore some credibility.
- When you need to lie in the future, try to avoid making the same mistakes you did this time.
- This may seem counterintuitive, but you’ll soon find that it takes a huge weight off of you, and you won’t have to maintain the lie.
2 Explain why you lied, without making any excuses: Once you admit that you lied, you’ll likely be asked more questions. Don’t try to justify your lie, but explain how you were thinking about it. Tell the person why you felt the need to lie and why you thought your truth wouldn’t work for you.
- It is possible that the person may not accept your explanation or may say that what you are saying is useless or not correct. Then don’t argue, rather stick to the reasons you have given, no matter what their outcome may be.
3 Tell the person how you’ll make restitution: Lying will hurt you in some way, so when you get caught, you’ll have to make things right. Give the person some concrete steps to remedy the situation. Be honest about what you are supposed to do and then follow through to do the same.
- The things you need to fix may not be problems at all but relationship stressors. To show your remorse and make up for your lies, you may need to do some emotional work.
Advice
- If you lie often, you may lose track of your lies or you may simply not be believed. If you lie less often, then the number of times you lie will go unnoticed.
- If your bid is confident, then it will be more credible.
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- Lies are often caught, and the consequences of some lies are much more vast than others. It’s always wise to ask yourself if this lie is worth the risk.
- Lying in legal matters is never a good idea as the consequences can be huge.
